Preventing Hazing is the first and only book on hazing to include methods and techniques to help parents, teachers, and coaches prevent hazing in their communities. Writtenwithclarity and passion, this much-neededbook uncovers the deep roots of hazing, how and why it permeates schools, colleges, and communities year after year. Readers will learn how to recognize the warning signs, what do if a child/student has been involved in a hazing (either as a victim, bystander, or perpetrator), how to deal with the moral, legal, and emotional aspects of hazing, and, ultimately, how to heal and move forward both as an individual and as a community. True stories from across the United States are interspersed throughout the book to underline the severity and prevalence of the problem.
I do not believe it is an exaggeration to state that Dr. Gartner's work led to the saving of countless emotional lives. ... [This is] one of the finest self-help books for male victims of sexual abuse. ... I only wish Beyond Betrayal were published years ago. I am very happy it comes to us now. It is a must-read for all victims of sexual abuse as boys and for their loved ones. It is necessary, practical, well written-and yes, a life-saving book.
A no-nonsense guide for keeping kids protected and informed on the Internet is an essential book for any family with a home computer. The Parent's Guide to Protecting Your Children in Cyberspace comes highly recommended, with kudos from countless corporations, governmental agencies, and nonprofit organizations. Equally useful for long-time users and newcomers to the Internet, parents will find a wealth of useful tips presented in a friendly and entertaining manner.
About to begin his second year of college, Land agrees to give a stranger a ride home from a party. The stranger brings a friend, and the two men abduct, rob, and beat Land, leaving him bleeding on a country road. His wounds heal more quickly than his psyche; the already awkward young man spends the year recovering, then transfers to a new school where his brother is already enrolled. Though he is the elder, Land has always played catch-up to his handsome, confident, and athletic sibling, and despite a warning inner voice, he pledges to the same fraternity. Hazing is barbaric. The author escapes with crippled self-esteem, but another pledge pays a far greater price. Land's clipped prose lends this memoir a feeling of immediacy, and he adds novelistic weight to simple, almost primitive dialogue. But while events are sometimes moving, he's not very successful in creating a meaningful narrative arc out of bad luck, a bad decision, and a collegiate woe that has seen its share of headlines. Strongest as a cautionary tale about fraternities.
The biggest thing that's ever happened to the Long Island town of South Shore is its high-school basketball team, blessed with two players of national caliber and the white-hot attention of the media. Not even the death of the team's manager can dampen the enthusiasm for long, but then a kid on the high school paper begins to hear things-stories of brutalities at a team retreat, of hazing that went over the line . . . of murder. But no one wants to know, and at every step, the ranks close against him-the school, the parents, the police, the town fathers. Soon the threats begin, then the physical intimidation, and even after he recruits a fallen-from-grace city newsman named Ben Mitchell to help him, the incidents get uglier-and more dangerous.
Robbins, who previously researched Yale's Skull and Bones Society for Secrets of the Tomb and also coauthored Quarterlife Crisis, went undercover for the 2002-2003 academic year to investigate the inner workings of "Greek" (National Panhellenic Conference) sororities. Sororities are far from anachronisms; there are presently some 3.5 million women in almost 3,000 Greek chapters on campuses across America. After the national office forbade locals from cooperating with Robbins, she disguised herself as an undergrad and found four sorority women willing to risk expulsion to help her.
Filled with painful stories of initiation rites that have ended in humiliation, legal action, and even death, this book deflates the notion that hazing is a harmless way to build group unity. It's shown, instead, as a power play of intimidation and peer pressure that, especially during the adolescent years, is nearly impossible to withstand.
Forced drinking, long periods of sleep and hygiene deprivation, public humiliation (often involving nudity or vomiting), enforced servitude, verbal abuse, sexual assault, tortuous physical abuse: although this sounds like a litany of abuses in a book about the treatment of political prisoners or activities of religious cults dominated by sociopaths, these behaviors constitute the time-honored customs of some sports teams, military units, and Greek fraternities and sororities.
Furthering the work he started with Broken Pledges: The Deadly Rite of Hazing (LJ 11/15/90), Nuwer continues telling the stories of those injured and killed by fraternity rituals, including beatings, mental abuse, overwhelming physical exercise, and the forced consumption of alcohol, food, and other substances. Nuwer studies the history of hazing in fraternities and other secret societies as well as efforts to stop it.
As a fraternity member, past chapter president, and former national committee representative, Ricky L. Jones is uniquely qualified to write about the sometimes deadly world of black fraternity hazing. Examining five major black Greek-letter fraternities, Jones maintains that hazing rituals within these fraternities are more deeply ingrained, physically violent, and imbued with meaning to their participants than the initiation rites of other ethnic groups.
Beta Gamma Psi had been a part of Eva Perkins life since birth. When she starts college at Edwin Carver Science & Technology University she takes strides to become a member of the sorority that both her mother and sister belong to. After years of attending Beta events and pre-pledging at Carver; Eva eventually finds herself on line pledging Beta. Discord and infighting among the big sisters and within the pledge class leads to drama.
This is an extremely helpful book that both parents and teachers can use to deal with bullying, an aspect of school that the author feels "is a life-and-death issue that we ignore at our children's peril." Staring with a bottom-line assumption that "bullying is a learned behavior," Coloroso (Parenting Through Crisis) wonderfully explains not only the ways that the bully, the bullied and the bystander are "three characters in a tragic play" but also how "the scripts can be rewritten, new roles created, the plot changed."
Bullying at School is the definitive book on bully/victim problems in school and on effective ways of counteracting and preventing such problems. On the basis of the author's large-scale studies and other research, it is known that bullying is a serious problem in all societies that have been studied so far, and that more than 15 percent of the school population in primary and secondary/junior high schools are involved, either as bullies or victims.
This handbook provides a comprehensive tool for understanding, preventing, and reducing the day-to-day teasing and harassment referred to as bullying. Effective teaching and counseling models include a comprehensive, step-by-step bullying intervention model that can be implemented school-, agency-, or community-wide; specific strategies that teachers, administrators, and counselors can use when working with bullies and their scapegoats; assessment and evaluation tools for anti-bullying efforts; and ways to improve the families of bullies and scapegoats.
A self-help guide to positive thinking, high self-esteem, and responsible personal power. Based on a program originally developed for adults, the book's premise is that all young people can and should be taught the skills necessary to face common issues, such as making choices, liking themselves, and solving problems. Exercises guide readers through learning about their own feelings, dreams, and needs--while stressing that they are responsible for their own behavior and happiness.
When Oscar Booz entered West Point in 1898, the older cadets decided that he did not conform to their image of what a cadet should be. After four months of constant torment, including a beating in an organized boxing match, ridicule for reading his Bible, and the forced consumption of hot sauce in the cadet mess hall, he resigned. When Oscar died a year and a half later from tuberculosis of the larynx, his family claimed that the West Point cadets had killed their son by scarring his throat and creating a fertile field for the fatal infection.
SuEllen Fried, a dance therapist and community activist who has headed the National Committee to Prevent Child Abuse, and her daughter Paula, a psychotherapist, here collaborate on a thorough analysis of peer abuse among children. The book opens with a definition of bullying that examines when harmless teasing crosses the line to become abuse. Later chapters examine physical, verbal, emotional, and sexual abuse among peers, with key ideas clarified by real-life examples. The final chapters suggest ways to empower children, including adult intervention and educational programs in school settings.
Sydney Schuster was an easy target growing up; the bullies beat him up every day. Now, he's a millionaire with bullies for sons. He was willing to accept that fate (albeit with bitterness), but an opportunity arises. Syd's former tormentor, now a priest, hits him up for the money to save his school. Sydney hits back with an offer the priest could not refuse.
Despite what many well-meaning adults advise, nothing fans a bully's fire brighter than a victim who tries to "just ignore it." Be it insults, punches, ostracism, or sexual labeling, such misplaced anger requires swift and smart intervention. In Your Child: Bully or Victim?, Peter Sheras examines bullying from many angles and provides thoughtful, practical advice for all parents of school-age children.
A book of essays about contemporary American social problems. A tough book softened by humor and wit. An angry book tempered by a love for America. A fast read that will cause a slow-burn which will ignite a passion for the America that years of convenient morality and fashionable ethics has eroded. An America in which everyone is truly free not just to pursue life, liberty and justice. But free from harm and fear and hatred and hunger and poverty. An America that our ancestral fathers and sons and brothers died to create and keep free. And current fathers, sons, brothers, mothers, daughters and sisters are dying in order to save.
Valerie Besage examines what kind of child becomes a bully or victim, and why. She explores the family and social contexts which produce bullies and victimes, and analyses the roles of race and gender. She provides not only a guide to understanding bullying but also a teacher's handbook on what to do about it.
Bullies cannot exist without victims and both participate in the bullying relationship. Butch, who has been a victim at home, becomes a bully at school in order to make himself feel better. Luis feels worse about himself when he does not stand up to Butch, but Butch threatens to hurt Luis again if he tells a grown-up. The reader will discover how both a bully and a victim feel. Questions and suggestions in this book provide guidance on how to avoid being a victim and how to become a peacemaker.
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Americas favorite sportswriter teams up with Red Auerbach, the most successful and admired coach in basketball history, to tell the best stories of a legendary life. Living legend Arnold "Red" Auerbach led the Boston Celtics to nine NBA championships--eight of them consecutive-- during his 17-year tenure in Boston from 1950 to 1966. The fiery coach is a unique personality--brash, opinionated, and unfailingly accurate. As a coach he never stood still along the sidelines, and in retirement he remains a lively part of the game, still consulted by coaches, players, and general managers at age 86.
The key to building a superior company, an increasing number of observers now agree, is the ongoing ability to recruit and retain superior personnel. In Topgrading, industrial psychologist and global consultant Bradford Smart expands upon this idea by examining in great detail exactly how today's premier organizations have assembled such top-level employees, and then showing precisely how others can do it, too.
Put coaching into practice in your organization! Executive coaching is dramatically increasing in popularity. Leaders around the world are both using coached and becoming coaches. But, the understanding of what executive coaching is and how it can increases leaders' effectiveness has not grown as fast as the application of this process.
A new edition of the book that took the art of coaching to new heights. Since Coaching for Performance was first published over a decade ago, John Whitmore has lead the way with this best-selling classic that has sold more than 200,000 copies worldwide. Translated into a dozen languages and considered a 'must-read' by such international leaders as Coca-Cola, this is the definitive guide to mastering the skills needed to help people unlock their potential and maximize their performance.
Leader As Coach is a straight-forward, practical book that can help you lead your people and your organization to greater success. The tips and practices in Leader As Coach will enable you to sharpen your coaching skills so that you can attract and retain the talent you need for success, foster growth in others, provide effective feedback, orchestrate learning opportunities, and groom high-potential performers. After all, your people are your most important asset.
Williams—senior v-p of the NBA's Orlando Magic, former general manager of the Philadelphia 76ers, author (How to Be Like Mike) and a motivational speaker—draws on the lessons he's learned as a Christian, a father (of 19 biological and adopted children) and a sports executive in this book on training and inspiring children to become future leaders.
If you want to create a lean, mean, working machine in today's environment you need a game plan for building employee morale and commitment. By coaching and mentoring your work force—instead of implementing staid traditional management techniques—you'll start to see tremendous results.
Shooting in the Dark: Tales of Coaching and Leadership by Jim Thompson is a philosophical account of the author's two-year tenure coaching a high school girls basketball team in Northern California. The book also draws content from topics in leadership theory and a course co-taught by the author at the Stanford School of Business called Learning to Lead. The overall result is a unique journey into the world of coaching. The book features a Foreword by Phil Jackson, Head Coach of the Chicago Bulls.
When former Richmond High School basketball legend Ken Carter agrees to take over his alma mater's floundering team, he has the players sign a contract that demands good grades, perfect class attendance, and suits on game days. With Coach Carter at the helm, the Oilers' record soon stands at 12 and 0. But when the coach learns that some members of his team are cutting class and failing academically, he locks them out of the gym, incurring the wrath of the players, the school, and the community. Coach Carter's determination to adhere to his convictions puts his philosophy and his players' trust to the ultimate test.
Perfect for coaches of girls up to age 13, Coachng Girls' Basketball includes everything you need to be an outstanding coach and mentor to your players. Whether you are a seasoned coach looking to fine-tune your skills or a rookie eager to take the court running, you'll discover techniques for success that are tailored specifically to the needs of girls.
Positive Coaching is jam packed with information for coaches in any sport. The book includes over 200 coaching recommendations on specific psychological, motivational, and behavioral situations. There is a special focus on the coach as storyteller -- 50 motivational stories can be used to develop strong communication with athletes.
This book is written for coaches, parents and players at all levels of Youth Basketball. Basketball is most enjoyed by the fleet of foot and the sure of shot. Use Coaching Youth Basketball as your guide to teaching the game, drilling the skills and building kids' confidence. Get this book into your game plan and watch your team's abilities take off like a strong vertical leap.
This guide to coaching female athletes of all ages shows how to build a team and provides invaluable advice on the differences between coaching males and females. The authors include exercises that foster teamwork and develop essential skills. They also answer parents' most common questions, such as how to tell if the coach is doing a good job and what to do if a child wants to quit. Filled with stories about the Olympic and World Cup championship teams, this useful handbook is infused throughout with DiCicco's philosophy that at every level playing soccer (or any sport) is about "playing hard, playing fair, playing to win, and having fun."
When signing his eldest son up for Little League baseball, Ned McIntosh was told he'd have to find a coach if he wanted his son to play. So McIntosh stepped up to the plate and, with little guidance, began coaching. That's probably how most people become Little League coaches, and they often feel at a complete loss as to where to start. Written by a father/coach for other parent/coaches, Little League Drills and Strategies teaches coaches how to help their players enjoy the game--as well as develop the skills they need to win.
You thought you were just going to sign up your child for the youth league. Now here you are, a newly appointed coach. You didn't ask for it, but it happened anyway. Now you need help. Don't despair. This complete guidebook will not only get you through it but will help you become the coach you'd like to be—the coach who can give those kids the sports experience they deserve. You've already taken a big step: you said "yes" to this important commitment. Congratulations. You'll have a great time, and Jacquie Joseph is here to help.
This question-and-answer book helps parents understand and cope with issues of modern teenage life: alcohol, drugs, and parties; academics; sex; eating disorders; homosexuality; divorce and remarriage - while encouraging parents to move from being their child's manager to being their consultant. The author's upbeat, unpatronizing approach to teenagers promotes true communication and understanding between parents and teens.
From the co-author of Field Guide to the American Teenager and parenting expert for "The CBS Early Show," invaluable advice on parenting teens. At last, a book of sage advice that will help frustrated parents reconnect with their teenager and keep that connection even in today's often-crazy world. The first step is simple: realizing that inside every teen resides two very different people-the regressed child and the emergent adult. The emergent adult is seen at school, on the playing field, in his first job, and in front of his friends' families.
Being a teenager is both wonderful and challenging. In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens, author Sean Covey applies the timeless principles of the 7 Habits to teens and the tough issues and life-changing decisions they face. In an entertaining style, Covey provides a step-by-step guide to help teens improve self-image, build friendships, resist peer pressure, achieve their goals, get along with their parents, and much more. In addition, this book is stuffed with cartoons, clever ideas, great quotes, and incredible stories about real teens from all over the world. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens will engage teenagers unlike any other book.
The Adolescent continues to be the most comprehensive book in its subject area, setting the standard for adolescent psychology books since its first publication more than twenty years ago. This book emphasizes the eclectic approach to adolescence, presenting not just one theory on the subject but many, and discussing the contributions, strengths, and weaknesses of each. The authors also take into consideration current and important topics such as ethnic identity formation and gender issues. For anyone in the fields of psychology or education with an interest in adolescents.
This groundbreaking book takes you inside the secret world of girls' friendships, translating and decoding them, so parents can better understand and help their daughters navigate through these crucial years. Rosalind Wiseman has spent more than a decade listening to thousands of girls talk about the powerful role cliques play in shaping what they wear and say, how they feel about school, how they respond to boys, and how they feel about themselves.
This timely book addresses one of the greatest social, family, and community concerns of today--children and youth who are at-risk for a variety of problem behaviors. Whether the term "at risk" is associated with a local school district's problems, with child and adolescent suicide, violence, or school dropout, with the correction system's concerns about gangs or juvenile delinquency, or public health concerns of teen pregnancy, child abuse, AIDS and STDs, and drug and alcohol use, individuals considered "at risk" need the ongoing attention of professionals across many disciplines.
Parents, teachers, and mental health workers will find the answers to these- and many other-questions in this forthright yet compassionate guide to helping your adolescent through the tumultuous teen years. From peer pressure and self-esteem to experimentation with sex, alcohol, and drugs, this invaluable resource covers a wide range of pratical issues. Here as well is information on more serious obstacles to a teen's development that may require professional intervention, such as depression, eating disorders, substance abuse, and disruptive behavorial disorders. As surely as every child will become a teen, every person that must relate to a teen will find this book a reliable, indespensable guide to the ups and downs of adolecence.
GENERAL CHILD PSYCHOLOGY
Parenting expert Dr. Michele Borba tackles the most common bad behaviors that kids ages 3 to 12 repeat over and over—behaviors that drive parents crazy. In this enormously useful, simple-to-use book she shows how to change these behaviors for good. For each negative behavior Dr. Borba offers a series of key tips and guidelines and outlines a step-by-step plan for a customized makeover that really works! Using the steps outlined in No More Misbehavin' will give you the help you need to raise kids with strong values and good character.
You thought you were doing the best for your child and didn't set out to raise a selfish, insensitive, spoiled kid. In her newest book, Don't Give Me That Attitude! parenting expert Michele Borba offers you an effective, practical, and hands-on approach to help you work with your child to fix that very annoying but widespread youthful characteristic, attitude. If you have a child who is arrogant, bad-mannered, bad-tempered, a cheat, cruel, demanding, domineering, fresh, greedy, impatient, insensitive, irresponsible, jealous, judgmental, lazy, manipulative, narrow-minded, noncompliant, pessimistic, a poor loser, selfish, uncooperative, ungrateful, or unhelpful, this is the book for you!
Gain a new understanding of moral intelligence, and a step-by-step program for its achievement from bestselling author, Michele Borba. In this indispensable book for parents, Borba has created a new break-through in conceptualizing and teaching virtue, character and values under the auspices of a measurable capacity -- Moral Intelligence. This book confronts the front-page crisis we now face in our country regarding youth violence, alienation, self-destructive behavior, cold-heartedness, lack of compassion, insensitivity, intolerance and the break down of values. The author provides a new way to understand, evaluate and inspire our kids with the seven essential virtues which comprise moral intelligence.
For the millions who suffer from the effects of a traumatic experience, this book offers help and hope and provides the diverse elements needed for lasting recovery. Trauma can take many forms, from the most disturbing of circumstances such as witnessing a murder or violent crime to the subtle trauma of living with the effects of abuse or alcoholism. Deep emotional wounds often seem like they will never heal, but Schiraldi has helped and witnessed survivors recover, grow, and find happiness.
When Judith Herman's Trauma and Recovery was first published five years ago, it was hailed as a groundbreaking work. In the intervening years, Herman's now classic volume has changed the way we think about and treat traumatic events and trauma victims. In a new introduction, Herman chronicles the incredible response the book has elicited and explains how the issues surrounding the topic of trauma and recovery have shifted within the clinical community and the culture at large.
Post-traumatic stress disorder is an extremely debilitating condition that can occur after exposure to a terrifying event or ordeal. In The PTSD Workbook, readers determine the type of trauma they experienced, identify their physical, mental, and emotional symptoms, and learn effective techniques and interventions to overcome them. They start with the exercise best suited to relieve their worst symptom then progress to less troubling symptoms, picking up key information about PTSD along the way.
Each year thousands of American teenagers are diagnosed with clinical depression. If ignored, poorly treated, or left untreated, it can be a devastating illness for adolescents and their families. Drawing on her many years of experience as a pychiatrist working with teenagers, Dr. Maureen Empfield answers the questions parents and teens have about depression.
A guide to understanding and coping with depression, discussing the different types, how and why the condition begins, how it may be linked to substance abuse or suicide, and how to get help.